I will share an incident which happened when I was residing in CHENNAI 3 months ago. Myself (age 38), Wife (age 32) and Son (age 8) were in Chennai since 2011 almost 2.5 years. We have been staying in the same Apartment complex[only 36 flats] from the beginning. So we know most of the households in that apartment. There is one Telugu family of Husband[age 43], Wife[38], two Daughters[age 18 and age 10]. My DW is very close friends with that Telugu Housewife. They will meet when we husbands are away at work and in the evenings also they both will go walking together everyday.
But I had met the Telugu Husband GUY only once or twice in the building basement etc but never went to their home. So we had just talked about our Office work etc. That Telugu Husband GUY had never come to our home or I never went to their home. So it is only the ladies who are very close to each other.
I eventually got a Job Offer in Bangalore in June 2013. So my Wife forced me to shift her and my Son to Bangalore to our FIL's Flat and get my Son's School admission in Bangalore even though I had to serve 3 month's notice period to my current company. So reluctantly I moved my Wife and Son to Bangalore and also put my son in a Bangalore School and I returned to stay as a Bachelor in my Chennai Flat itself for the next 3 months. I used to go to Bangalore every weekend to be with my Wife and Kid.
When I visited Bangalore My Wife gave a CLUTCH as gift item to give it to the Telugu Housewife as a GIFT. My Wife insisted that I should give the gift in person only and not through the duty watchman etc. So I came back to Chennai with the GIFT. I am somewhat shy nature and not talking to women on my own. My problem was, how to give this GIFT to that lady. One day I told my Wife to call that Lady on her cell phone and tell her that I will knock on their door to deliver the GIFT. My wife called that Lady and just told that I will come to their house as she cant disclose why I will come because it is a GIFT item and it should be somewhat surprise to her friend. I made up my mind to take the RISK and go to their flat. I knew that her husband usually comes home by 11 pm only. But I cannot go at that late just to give a GIFT. So at around 6.30 PM I went to their flat and knocked the door. That lady was asleep and woke up to invite me inside their flat. Also both their daughters were in the house. That lady felt good that I came to their home for the first time and forced/insisted on me to come inside their house and also forced/insisted on me to sit on their couch. The lady went into the kitchen to bring some Tea I believe. Both the daughters came to the Hall where I was watching TV and started a discussion with me about how is life in Bangalore etc. The younger daughter is having dementia I believe, so she was hell bent on talking to me in multiple ways. I was not understanding anything the little girl was telling me but I kept nodding my head. But the Older one just kept me engaged for the next 10 minutes till the Tea was getting ready by her mommy.
Suddenly the Telugu HUSBAND made an entry into the house and I was CONFUSED etc, really can't describe my reaction because I never faced such a TRICKY situation ever in my married life. That day he was supposed to come late but for some reason his work got over early and he had reached home early. Somehow I regained my mental posture and told him that even though this was my first visit[when the Husband is not in house :hide::bonk] to their house I had come only to deliver the GIFT given by my DW. I believe the Telugu Husband took it sportively but I felt really embarrassed about this incident. I talked to him about my new job in Bangalore and took some advice as he is senior to me. I just wanted to leave the place without Tea also but the Husband forced/insisted on me to have Tea etc, I reluctantly had the tea and left.
When I told this incident to my WIFE , she LAUGHED and LAUGHED continuously as ROFL:biglaugh. I thought my GOOD IMAGE got dented in front of the Telugu Husband. He might be thinking how come such a nice person come to a married lady's house that too when the Husband is not in home. But I could not help this incident as it was my DW's Plan to begin with.
My advice to married DH's is never accept your WIFE's ideas on giving GIFT'S to her close friend's as It will create unnecessary tension for DH's.:thankyou2:
But I had met the Telugu Husband GUY only once or twice in the building basement etc but never went to their home. So we had just talked about our Office work etc. That Telugu Husband GUY had never come to our home or I never went to their home. So it is only the ladies who are very close to each other.
I eventually got a Job Offer in Bangalore in June 2013. So my Wife forced me to shift her and my Son to Bangalore to our FIL's Flat and get my Son's School admission in Bangalore even though I had to serve 3 month's notice period to my current company. So reluctantly I moved my Wife and Son to Bangalore and also put my son in a Bangalore School and I returned to stay as a Bachelor in my Chennai Flat itself for the next 3 months. I used to go to Bangalore every weekend to be with my Wife and Kid.
When I visited Bangalore My Wife gave a CLUTCH as gift item to give it to the Telugu Housewife as a GIFT. My Wife insisted that I should give the gift in person only and not through the duty watchman etc. So I came back to Chennai with the GIFT. I am somewhat shy nature and not talking to women on my own. My problem was, how to give this GIFT to that lady. One day I told my Wife to call that Lady on her cell phone and tell her that I will knock on their door to deliver the GIFT. My wife called that Lady and just told that I will come to their house as she cant disclose why I will come because it is a GIFT item and it should be somewhat surprise to her friend. I made up my mind to take the RISK and go to their flat. I knew that her husband usually comes home by 11 pm only. But I cannot go at that late just to give a GIFT. So at around 6.30 PM I went to their flat and knocked the door. That lady was asleep and woke up to invite me inside their flat. Also both their daughters were in the house. That lady felt good that I came to their home for the first time and forced/insisted on me to come inside their house and also forced/insisted on me to sit on their couch. The lady went into the kitchen to bring some Tea I believe. Both the daughters came to the Hall where I was watching TV and started a discussion with me about how is life in Bangalore etc. The younger daughter is having dementia I believe, so she was hell bent on talking to me in multiple ways. I was not understanding anything the little girl was telling me but I kept nodding my head. But the Older one just kept me engaged for the next 10 minutes till the Tea was getting ready by her mommy.
Suddenly the Telugu HUSBAND made an entry into the house and I was CONFUSED etc, really can't describe my reaction because I never faced such a TRICKY situation ever in my married life. That day he was supposed to come late but for some reason his work got over early and he had reached home early. Somehow I regained my mental posture and told him that even though this was my first visit[when the Husband is not in house :hide::bonk] to their house I had come only to deliver the GIFT given by my DW. I believe the Telugu Husband took it sportively but I felt really embarrassed about this incident. I talked to him about my new job in Bangalore and took some advice as he is senior to me. I just wanted to leave the place without Tea also but the Husband forced/insisted on me to have Tea etc, I reluctantly had the tea and left.
When I told this incident to my WIFE , she LAUGHED and LAUGHED continuously as ROFL:biglaugh. I thought my GOOD IMAGE got dented in front of the Telugu Husband. He might be thinking how come such a nice person come to a married lady's house that too when the Husband is not in home. But I could not help this incident as it was my DW's Plan to begin with.
My advice to married DH's is never accept your WIFE's ideas on giving GIFT'S to her close friend's as It will create unnecessary tension for DH's.:thankyou2: