Hi all,
Im new to this site.Im married for 4 years with (10month away from my husband).
Our marriage was arrange I had left to my parent to decide.
When they choose met the guy & as im very healthy girl so my one condition was he should be well built & tall so when my parent chose this guy I couldn't say no.
we married just after 6month of courtship.
I was working women & my husband was self employed.
I had hectic job as handling designer brand.
so life started horrible from the day one we had so many difference
1- I was very close with my dad mum & sister
2-I don't have many friend's so my sister was one I share everything.
this is about my background
My husband back ground
1- They parent are selfish
2- He never left what farther love
3- Father & he never had cordial relationship.
4- he had walked out of the house staying himself.
5-then at one point he father fell sick & his sister came for delivery so he took his dad, mum back in his home
6- after some year his father expired.
so my husband is grown as self style.
my problem
1- He drinks almost everyday
2-He always with his friends
3-He doesn't know what family life as I have seen.
I tried different ways of telling him with love, then fought with him stopped talking him but nothing worked finally I told his mother about his drinking it went out of our hands we fought I lost my head slapped him then it went really out our hand.
I walked out of the house took job in other place( sorry forgot I was working wen married but left the job thinking will help him in his business) then also I only got in touch with him but he was really not bothered once he said to me "he is happy with me or without me "so I thought take divorce from him then his cousin called me to asked me to met my husband & see then I came met him at his cousin place but it was same story it didn't any further. then after 3 month I was in touch with his cousin then one day my husband landed in my place but wanted to take hotel to stay I gave him little peace of mind he came stay with me he was there for 3 days.
but he never asked me to come back he said it is left me to do whatever I feel like.
then I decided to come back left the job there & came.
but life same now sincei have come back more that 3 month everyday he goes out with his friends too drink so he never have dinner with me.
Im so freeking I really don't know how to make him feel the family & so that he spends time with me.
so I thought see if any one can help to make him understand.
please help me.
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Im new to this site.Im married for 4 years with (10month away from my husband).
Our marriage was arrange I had left to my parent to decide.
When they choose met the guy & as im very healthy girl so my one condition was he should be well built & tall so when my parent chose this guy I couldn't say no.
we married just after 6month of courtship.
I was working women & my husband was self employed.
I had hectic job as handling designer brand.
so life started horrible from the day one we had so many difference
1- I was very close with my dad mum & sister
2-I don't have many friend's so my sister was one I share everything.
this is about my background
My husband back ground
1- They parent are selfish
2- He never left what farther love
3- Father & he never had cordial relationship.
4- he had walked out of the house staying himself.
5-then at one point he father fell sick & his sister came for delivery so he took his dad, mum back in his home
6- after some year his father expired.
so my husband is grown as self style.
my problem
1- He drinks almost everyday
2-He always with his friends
3-He doesn't know what family life as I have seen.
I tried different ways of telling him with love, then fought with him stopped talking him but nothing worked finally I told his mother about his drinking it went out of our hands we fought I lost my head slapped him then it went really out our hand.
I walked out of the house took job in other place( sorry forgot I was working wen married but left the job thinking will help him in his business) then also I only got in touch with him but he was really not bothered once he said to me "he is happy with me or without me "so I thought take divorce from him then his cousin called me to asked me to met my husband & see then I came met him at his cousin place but it was same story it didn't any further. then after 3 month I was in touch with his cousin then one day my husband landed in my place but wanted to take hotel to stay I gave him little peace of mind he came stay with me he was there for 3 days.
but he never asked me to come back he said it is left me to do whatever I feel like.
then I decided to come back left the job there & came.
but life same now sincei have come back more that 3 month everyday he goes out with his friends too drink so he never have dinner with me.
Im so freeking I really don't know how to make him feel the family & so that he spends time with me.
so I thought see if any one can help to make him understand.
please help me.
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