Dear All,
I am always confused about my responsibilities towards in-laws.
My inlaws provided education to my DH and sil equally. My fil didn't save anything in his life. my DH help his parents to clear their debts and also gave enough money to my sil's marriage. Also, he bought a home for my inlaws to live all their life before marriage itself. Now we pay the loan for that home. they don't even contribute single rupee for that home. More over mil takes rent that comes from single bedroom portion attached to the main two-bedroom portion of the house. my inlaws live in the two-bedroom portion of the house. we both are working. So, I never bothered about her taking rent.
myself and my sil live in the usa. now, they took care my sil's kids. they raised my sil's kids first and then they want to take care of our kids. They don't want my sil to have inlaws troubles. my sil's kids are older to my kid. I have only one kid. her second kid and my only kid are of same age. My mom is taking care of my kid and my mil took care of sil's kids. my sil is working as well. They spend money to sil's sarees etc. They didn't give anything to us.
Now is it solely my responsibility to take care of inlaws or my sil's responsibility as well? I feel my sil is more responsible than me because we did so much to them already and they didn't give anything to us. My mil always says they sent sil to outside. In directly that means I came to their home and i responsible for them.
When DH and I gave them respectable life in the society why does she still expects from us? why not from sil when days are changing? my sil also has to share the responsibilities right?
I am always confused about my responsibilities towards in-laws.
My inlaws provided education to my DH and sil equally. My fil didn't save anything in his life. my DH help his parents to clear their debts and also gave enough money to my sil's marriage. Also, he bought a home for my inlaws to live all their life before marriage itself. Now we pay the loan for that home. they don't even contribute single rupee for that home. More over mil takes rent that comes from single bedroom portion attached to the main two-bedroom portion of the house. my inlaws live in the two-bedroom portion of the house. we both are working. So, I never bothered about her taking rent.
myself and my sil live in the usa. now, they took care my sil's kids. they raised my sil's kids first and then they want to take care of our kids. They don't want my sil to have inlaws troubles. my sil's kids are older to my kid. I have only one kid. her second kid and my only kid are of same age. My mom is taking care of my kid and my mil took care of sil's kids. my sil is working as well. They spend money to sil's sarees etc. They didn't give anything to us.
Now is it solely my responsibility to take care of inlaws or my sil's responsibility as well? I feel my sil is more responsible than me because we did so much to them already and they didn't give anything to us. My mil always says they sent sil to outside. In directly that means I came to their home and i responsible for them.
When DH and I gave them respectable life in the society why does she still expects from us? why not from sil when days are changing? my sil also has to share the responsibilities right?