I respect elders.I grew up in a joint family with all cousins,uncles and aunts,grandmom and dad in the same house.
when I went to my inlaws place,I went there with the intention that I have to take good care of my inlaws.Even my mom and dad
thought me to be that way.
As a DIL,
1) I never question what my husband buys/sends money to my inlaws.Infact,I do not even ask nor I care
2)Everytime I go to India,I buy so much for them,take them out a lot
3)No matter how rude my inlaws are,I still tried to ignore it and try to overlook things
4) I have never raised my voice or even questioned them for their actions which have hurt me
5) I keep telling them that they r not alone,we r there for them,that their dh loves them more than me and that they should see positives in life
6)I ask dh to take his parents out a lot
7)we go on lots of vacations together
I was this way for 8 years.
Now,even after all this,my MIL is rude to me,sarcastic,comments on my looks,education and is not even interested on her grandchildren.
She laments a lot and is so insecure.she comments to other ladies about how old age is a curse especially for ones having sons!!
she just wants to go out a lot,have fun and does not even want to spend quality time with grandkids.offlate it is getting worse.she is treating me like a outsider.my father in law as he is growing older is rude and shouts at me everyday(when they visited usa)
it is getting worse and worse despite me STILL being the above.Now,I am moving back to India for good by next yr.She keeps saying that I should take amazing care of herbut she does not trust me.
Honestly,I got frustrated recently.despite nice,I am still a third person.I do not even know what to do.How can i live with her?
at the same time,we have to take care of elders.How do I overlook her faults,keep sane and be happy and take care of her?
when I went to my inlaws place,I went there with the intention that I have to take good care of my inlaws.Even my mom and dad
thought me to be that way.
As a DIL,
1) I never question what my husband buys/sends money to my inlaws.Infact,I do not even ask nor I care
2)Everytime I go to India,I buy so much for them,take them out a lot
3)No matter how rude my inlaws are,I still tried to ignore it and try to overlook things
4) I have never raised my voice or even questioned them for their actions which have hurt me
5) I keep telling them that they r not alone,we r there for them,that their dh loves them more than me and that they should see positives in life
6)I ask dh to take his parents out a lot
7)we go on lots of vacations together
I was this way for 8 years.
Now,even after all this,my MIL is rude to me,sarcastic,comments on my looks,education and is not even interested on her grandchildren.
She laments a lot and is so insecure.she comments to other ladies about how old age is a curse especially for ones having sons!!
she just wants to go out a lot,have fun and does not even want to spend quality time with grandkids.offlate it is getting worse.she is treating me like a outsider.my father in law as he is growing older is rude and shouts at me everyday(when they visited usa)
it is getting worse and worse despite me STILL being the above.Now,I am moving back to India for good by next yr.She keeps saying that I should take amazing care of herbut she does not trust me.
Honestly,I got frustrated recently.despite nice,I am still a third person.I do not even know what to do.How can i live with her?
at the same time,we have to take care of elders.How do I overlook her faults,keep sane and be happy and take care of her?