Hi friends
I have been married since 3 years and husband supports me for my carrier. i am not working right now but in the middle of this process.
The problem is his temper. Yesterday i had a huge fight, it started as
My fil called my dh and started enquiring about my carrier, From his language, it was clear that he knew everything about my process, my friends, my clothing, everyday cooking, every detail he had. when my dh finished, he asked to talk with me and again started enquiring the same things. whatever he asked i answered but after every question he said '' my son told me evrything, i knew this before''. I dint got this attitude, if fil already knows then at first place why he need to ask me, second why he wants to show me inferior.
We went out for an evening walk then, while walking i calmly requested him not to tell anyone about my carrier.
dh: give me a reason why you want this.
i controlled myself,
me: if they want to ask, they can directly question me, i ll be happy.
These words ignited him to an extent hat he shouted in public and tightly held my hand and said if you wana call police, call.
There i loose my patience, and firmly told him to leave my hand. And i headed back towards home, he followed me and was constantly abusing me. i too gave back everything.
This was the first tme when i shouted back at him. an year back same incident hapened but after that he became supernice. 3 4 days back he shouted a lot but after, apologised many times when he realized his mistake.
My feelings at this time... shattered, not feeling safe with him.I am silent.He too.
Do he need any counselling.
Did i made such a big mistake.
Or my marriage is sinking:drowning
How could i trust him again
Please help me ladies how i control his temper, his superego.
This kinda disgusting attitude is in his blood, his father shouts exactly the same way. Is there any way to save marriage. i am concerned about future, kids.
now i have decided to give him a silent treatment, till he realises but at other side i remember his apologies 3 days back, this dint helped.
Please help.
I have been married since 3 years and husband supports me for my carrier. i am not working right now but in the middle of this process.
The problem is his temper. Yesterday i had a huge fight, it started as
My fil called my dh and started enquiring about my carrier, From his language, it was clear that he knew everything about my process, my friends, my clothing, everyday cooking, every detail he had. when my dh finished, he asked to talk with me and again started enquiring the same things. whatever he asked i answered but after every question he said '' my son told me evrything, i knew this before''. I dint got this attitude, if fil already knows then at first place why he need to ask me, second why he wants to show me inferior.
We went out for an evening walk then, while walking i calmly requested him not to tell anyone about my carrier.
dh: give me a reason why you want this.
i controlled myself,
me: if they want to ask, they can directly question me, i ll be happy.
These words ignited him to an extent hat he shouted in public and tightly held my hand and said if you wana call police, call.
There i loose my patience, and firmly told him to leave my hand. And i headed back towards home, he followed me and was constantly abusing me. i too gave back everything.
This was the first tme when i shouted back at him. an year back same incident hapened but after that he became supernice. 3 4 days back he shouted a lot but after, apologised many times when he realized his mistake.
My feelings at this time... shattered, not feeling safe with him.I am silent.He too.
Do he need any counselling.
Did i made such a big mistake.
Or my marriage is sinking:drowning
How could i trust him again
Please help me ladies how i control his temper, his superego.
This kinda disgusting attitude is in his blood, his father shouts exactly the same way. Is there any way to save marriage. i am concerned about future, kids.
now i have decided to give him a silent treatment, till he realises but at other side i remember his apologies 3 days back, this dint helped.
Please help.