Hi Ladies,
I am married to my husband for past 5 yrs. I will jump straight into the situation. Years ago my FIL fell into a huge financial debt on account of his relative, so he ended up selling all of their property to clear the debt and atleast save their house. During this phase, he approached several people for help, my parents, my co-sis parents etc but no one including his own relatives helped, except my father who gave them 15l. Now its been 3-4 yrs since my Dad gave the money, my parents are financially fine. My Dad never even told me he gave the money until I came to know from my husband, probably coz he knows I am not favorable to the idea of giving them money as I think it would never come back. My relation with inlaws esp MIL is not good. I always keep wondering when and if they will ever return the money, sometimes I hear my DH talk to his parents saying, there is no hurry, they are fine now, so first look at repaying the bank loan, then we can think of repaying the loan to my Dad. He also says, once he is in a good financial position, he will repay my Dad. It bothers me, isn't it both the sons' job to repay their Dad's debt and not just my husband's? Whenever I think of this money, I think of all the things I could do with it like for higher studies etc. I know my Dad is not in dire need of it now but it is his hard earned money and I want my FIL to pay it back. My FIL works, I spoke to my DH about telling FIL to save up money and repay my Dad in installments but he said not to poke my nose. My Dad will never ask FIL for the money unless he gives it himself. I am just depressed that my Dad may lose his hard earned money or worse have his son in law repay and he may not accept. I want my FIL to repay it and if it comes down to he cant, I want the brothers to share it equally.
I am not sure what to do. Am I over reacting?
I am married to my husband for past 5 yrs. I will jump straight into the situation. Years ago my FIL fell into a huge financial debt on account of his relative, so he ended up selling all of their property to clear the debt and atleast save their house. During this phase, he approached several people for help, my parents, my co-sis parents etc but no one including his own relatives helped, except my father who gave them 15l. Now its been 3-4 yrs since my Dad gave the money, my parents are financially fine. My Dad never even told me he gave the money until I came to know from my husband, probably coz he knows I am not favorable to the idea of giving them money as I think it would never come back. My relation with inlaws esp MIL is not good. I always keep wondering when and if they will ever return the money, sometimes I hear my DH talk to his parents saying, there is no hurry, they are fine now, so first look at repaying the bank loan, then we can think of repaying the loan to my Dad. He also says, once he is in a good financial position, he will repay my Dad. It bothers me, isn't it both the sons' job to repay their Dad's debt and not just my husband's? Whenever I think of this money, I think of all the things I could do with it like for higher studies etc. I know my Dad is not in dire need of it now but it is his hard earned money and I want my FIL to pay it back. My FIL works, I spoke to my DH about telling FIL to save up money and repay my Dad in installments but he said not to poke my nose. My Dad will never ask FIL for the money unless he gives it himself. I am just depressed that my Dad may lose his hard earned money or worse have his son in law repay and he may not accept. I want my FIL to repay it and if it comes down to he cant, I want the brothers to share it equally.
I am not sure what to do. Am I over reacting?