Hi friends
My ils (specially bil, mil) tries their best to create problems in my married life. I dont like them, and talk with them occasionally like bdays, festivals, not on regular basis.
After wedding dh developed a habit of talking with them everyday, Initially i had issues with that (as they poison him) but now if he talks out of my sight i have no issues.
I think same is the case with him.
Yesterday night i called my brother to wish rakhi. i was preparing dinner side by side, my dh heard me, and closed the bedroom door tightly(he was doing some office work there). i felt bad as he never do this. I dint reacted and served dinner.
Today morning he started making calls to his family, he started with his bro, then called his cousin sis, then her hubby, and in queue was his mum. again i had no issues, its rakshabandha and he should talk with his sis.(his cousin sis dint called him or texted him in last 6 months, moreover we hvnt recieved any rakhis yet)
the thing that hurt me was... he went to second bedroom, closed the door and started his call on a whispering note, after 2 3 mins he started talking loudly.
Then he came out and called his sis's husband, he talked with him for an hour.
He was just trying to show that how well he talks with his sis family. Well i showed ignorant behaviour. I served him breakfast, he made a face dont know why. i had my breakfast and came inside bedroom. Again he came and shut the door.
This made me really angry. I dint wanted him to see my anger, so i slept(either i watch comedy shows or i sleep to curb my emotions), i woke up afetr an hour and started doing my studies. Now He is trying to behave normally.
So what was it. I dint get him. I rarely have any issues with him(many times he parties late night, when he increases frequency then i object but normally i dont) apart from ils issues.
How should i behave in such instances.
Please help. i want to avoid this in future.
My ils (specially bil, mil) tries their best to create problems in my married life. I dont like them, and talk with them occasionally like bdays, festivals, not on regular basis.
After wedding dh developed a habit of talking with them everyday, Initially i had issues with that (as they poison him) but now if he talks out of my sight i have no issues.
I think same is the case with him.
Yesterday night i called my brother to wish rakhi. i was preparing dinner side by side, my dh heard me, and closed the bedroom door tightly(he was doing some office work there). i felt bad as he never do this. I dint reacted and served dinner.
Today morning he started making calls to his family, he started with his bro, then called his cousin sis, then her hubby, and in queue was his mum. again i had no issues, its rakshabandha and he should talk with his sis.(his cousin sis dint called him or texted him in last 6 months, moreover we hvnt recieved any rakhis yet)
the thing that hurt me was... he went to second bedroom, closed the door and started his call on a whispering note, after 2 3 mins he started talking loudly.
Then he came out and called his sis's husband, he talked with him for an hour.
He was just trying to show that how well he talks with his sis family. Well i showed ignorant behaviour. I served him breakfast, he made a face dont know why. i had my breakfast and came inside bedroom. Again he came and shut the door.
This made me really angry. I dint wanted him to see my anger, so i slept(either i watch comedy shows or i sleep to curb my emotions), i woke up afetr an hour and started doing my studies. Now He is trying to behave normally.
So what was it. I dint get him. I rarely have any issues with him(many times he parties late night, when he increases frequency then i object but normally i dont) apart from ils issues.
How should i behave in such instances.
Please help. i want to avoid this in future.