I recently celebrated my first marriage anniversary and also the birth of my baby girl. we live in Singapore. Both of us are working and my work is like 10 to 12 hours a day.. When we got married newly I had to work even in the weekends,, I couldn't spend any valuable time with my husband and couldn't find time to cook at home or any other stuff.. One month went like this and after one month my mil and fil came to singapore in one month visit pass.. My Mil's character is like she is always right.. And she comments a lot on peoples' appearance.. She is so obsessed with the skin color and always comments (directly to me) that she didn't get a fair and beautiful daughter in law as per her wish.. She doesn't even realize that it will hurt me.. She dominates everywhere and took over our kitchen.. She wants everything to be made in her way,, even if I cook I have to cook as per her suggestion and she thinks she is the best in everything.. She used interfere in everything like my dressing she even teaches me how to bath,, I lost all my privacy.. She doesn't even know that she should give some privacy to her newly married son and dil..I come home only after 9.30 everyday and gets very less time to spend with my husband.. initially I tolerated all this as they were planning to leave in a month.. But I got pregnant that month and all the morning sickness started,, they extended their visa and stayed permanently in the name of helping me.. I felt very miserable.. Only advantage is I doesn't have to do any household chores.. But I was mentally tortured,, even my husband didn't realize that he is not spending time with me,, he bought me everything I needed and thought he did his duty,, I felt like staying in hostel.. I came home just to sleep.. I have cried several nights alone.. I couldn't even eat what I like when pregnant,, she just asks what I like in front of my husband for the sake of asking but she always does what she has in mind and in her way,, she is a drama queen and always behave like she cares for me a lot in front of DH.. I was feeling so stressed between work and this,, in my fifth month scan they found that I had uterine artery notching and ipregnancy is going to be a risk.. I had to take complete rest hence I had to put leave in advance and came to India to my mother.
After coming here only I felt relaxed in care of my mother and my health condition improved and I had a safe pregnancy,. Even during my labour pain she came to the hospital and tortured me. She is also so much obsessed with the horoscope.. She things her elder son is not doing good in life after her granddaughter birth..when I was already crying in pain she was insisting me that I should call a god when pain comes and she was keen that I should deliver the next day in her favorite star..but I delivered the same day.. I was planning to do exclusive breast feeding.. She stayed with us in hospital and on the third day itself when my kid was crying out of fever she compelled to give formula milk as she cannot the tolerate the crying of our baby,, she kept saying 30 plus years old story and boasted that she had seen so many babies,, even though I had enough milk she kept saying I don't have milk.. And I had to burst out and she made a big drama in the hospital itself..
Now my husband is planning to take her again to singapore to take care of our baby and am not at all comfortable leaving my kid with her,, I don't want my kid to be raised by a woman of that attitude,, I have even gone to the extent of giving up my career for this.. Now I dono how I can convince my husband and avoid bringing her wit us. My DH believes I cannot take care of an infant alone and someone should accompany me.. To My bad luck my in laws have got long time visit pass for three years since my husband is a pr.. I didn't even start living with my husband and now am afraid
Friends please give me some wise ideas to tackle this..
After coming here only I felt relaxed in care of my mother and my health condition improved and I had a safe pregnancy,. Even during my labour pain she came to the hospital and tortured me. She is also so much obsessed with the horoscope.. She things her elder son is not doing good in life after her granddaughter birth..when I was already crying in pain she was insisting me that I should call a god when pain comes and she was keen that I should deliver the next day in her favorite star..but I delivered the same day.. I was planning to do exclusive breast feeding.. She stayed with us in hospital and on the third day itself when my kid was crying out of fever she compelled to give formula milk as she cannot the tolerate the crying of our baby,, she kept saying 30 plus years old story and boasted that she had seen so many babies,, even though I had enough milk she kept saying I don't have milk.. And I had to burst out and she made a big drama in the hospital itself..
Now my husband is planning to take her again to singapore to take care of our baby and am not at all comfortable leaving my kid with her,, I don't want my kid to be raised by a woman of that attitude,, I have even gone to the extent of giving up my career for this.. Now I dono how I can convince my husband and avoid bringing her wit us. My DH believes I cannot take care of an infant alone and someone should accompany me.. To My bad luck my in laws have got long time visit pass for three years since my husband is a pr.. I didn't even start living with my husband and now am afraid
Friends please give me some wise ideas to tackle this..