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Visiting Shirdi Sai Mandir

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Jai Sairam

Myself and my husband are devotees of Saibaba and hope to visit him soon with our 1 yr old daughter. She was born in Canada during winter and is not yet accustomed to Indian weather, yet. Also the crowd in the queue, might be a problem. In any case, her temper tantrums are something, that we are greatly worried about. While we were visiting in the past (2yrs back), we had seen people making special entrances to get his grace. We don't know how to avail that facility or whom to approach regarding this.

Please feel free to give any suggestions, that could help our stay in Shirdi. Its been 2 years and we really long to visit his mandir....

Thanks in advance...


Beaded Key Chain Tutorial Discussion Thread

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Hi Everyone,

Here is a simple tutorial to make your very own
key chain with beads. All you need are a very few supplies and you can make a beautiful key chain in minutes.

If you have any questions regarding the tutorial, please post it here. And if you have tried the tutorial, don't forget to share your finished creations.

Check out the rest of the tutorials in this series
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நதியின் புலம்பல்

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எங்கோ தோன்றி எப்படியோ உருவாகி
காடு மலை எல்லாம் கால் வலிக்க கடந்து
கல்லிலும் மண்ணிலும் மெதுவாக நடந்து
என் இருப்பிடம் சேர்ந்து விடலாம் என்று
நான் இன்பமாக கனவு கண்டால்
என் ஓட்டத்தை தடுக்க எத்தனை இடையூறுகள்
தடைகளை கடக்க விரைவாக ஓடி வந்தால்
இடையூறுகள் அனைத்தும் உருத்தெரியாமல்
அழிந்து விட்டதே இறைவா என் செய்வேன் நான்
இது யார் செய்த குற்றம்
என் குற்றமா இல்லை நீ படைத்த உயிர் இனங்கள் குற்றமா
குற்றம் இழைத்தவர் யாராகினும்
மன்னித்தருள்வாய் என் ஐயனே

is my choice correct..? whether its better to avoid than being hurted..?

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Only u ppl can console me..i dunno to whom to pour out other thn.
Its been 4 yrs we re married.touhwood..my hubby is very lovable n kind till date..but my in laws side im still facing unnecessay issues which is disturbing me,my hubby n now my parents side as well..evlo than i think n do good they always criticise n hurt me..
1st year;
al were good n i also happily accepted them as my in laws..my SIL created silly issues n blowed it due to possesiveness..coz till tat time she was celebrated in tat house n now al celebrating me including my FIL MIL..but her this attitude disturbed everyone.
2nd year;
i became pregnant n severe nausea..n my SIL's 2nd child was 3 months old..due to situation my MIL came to look after me n i was working.so many things went wrong..i also did few silly mistakes[not cruel]..but finally it was like im trying to seperate my hubby from them n im not allowing him to spend for them n im adamant n i always buy good things for my family n not for them..my FIL showed his real face wen i was 6 mths preggy..hurted me alot n made me cry alot..if its her daughter ll he do tat..
3rd year;
i tried to forget everything n was casual to them for my hubbys happiness..my kid was born n all ok wit again silly issues by SIL..she is t culprit
4th yr;
im back n happily accepted them n all went ok wit few here n der hurtings..i jus learned to ignore n move on..but my SIL DUNNO WATS HER PROB..for my cousin sisters marriage we re most wanted n al r expecting too..me hubby n my parents al got ready for marriage..my in laws stayed at my home..esp my SIL purposefully delayed things n made my hubby to stay back n i was left standing alone greeting all..we also stay abroad n dont get chance to meet everyone all the time.i got really pissed off wen al enquired bout my hubby..im sure they does it purposefully.dunno wat happiness they get by this..
Due to above usual incident wer il be mostly left alone in any functions..for my kids function since it gonna happen in hubby native n my in laws are full incharge..i told my MIL 2 mths prior pls arrange persons for everything n dont make him run for everything..she also nodded her head..on the day,again my hubby was running here n der..n as usual this time leaving him to work ..my in laws came very late..al got pissed off as each one hav their own plans..i dint mind anything...the time came wen al came one by one to give gifts..correct uh apo my FIL asked my hubby to go n buy something..i was worried n asked my MIL politely 'why tha no one else to go uh'..my FIL interfered ..to him also politely i asked the same..for tat he started to shout like 'oly he has to go..if want u send anyone from ur family'..i really got tensed n called to my hubby n asked him to come fast..someone told bout this to my FIL n he came to me n in front of all my relatives shouted at me saying 'if want u send anyone from ur family..keep function in ur place..shall i leave..why did u called him..tat this'..i dint open my mouth at all..
now he says..its my mistake tat how come i asked 'why mama no one else to go uh'..even politely also..n how come i can call to my hubby..also he blames us unnecessarily for watever coming in his mouth.Also says 'don bring this girl to my home if she spks like this n try to control me'..n don spk to me for next 1 mth..my parents n my relatives al r very disappoineted n angry due to my in laws..my hubby also understood nothin wrong on our side n dint call to them..
They themself called n spoke to hubby after oneweek n not to me..n even now my hubby is more disturbed than me..we both feel its better i ignore n avoid them..as how much ever good DIL does..in laws are oly to criticise n hurt us..i feel like i better avoid them from my life by which i can have peace..but my hubby cant be like me n let him do watever is required for them..is my choice correct..? whether its better to avoid than being hurted..?

3 months onshore assignment in Sydney

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Hi Friends,

I am IT professional and will be travelling to Sydney for 3 months(Feb 2016 - April 2016). My workplace is in CBD (George street) . Could you please help me with the below information.

1.Since this is my first onshore assignment, I would like to know what is common dress attire in corporate offices.Please suggest what kind of dresses I need to shop based on climate from February to April 2016?

2. Accommodation :I will be travelling with my husband,MIL and my 2 years old daughter.Company is providing accomodation where only 2 adults and 1 kid can stay(service apartments) .So I cannot opt for it. Please suggest how can i search stay for 3 months for my family(3 adults + 1 kid)...

3.Checklist before travelling : for 3 months travel , what are the very essential items I need to carry for cooking?

Sink-ara chennai

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As a young girl I have crossed the gentle scenic Adyar river along with my grandpa, through a boat for which the charge was negligible.Taking shortcuts we used to reach Gandhi Mandapam which was a quite place then. Many times crossing the river bridge near Adyar, sitting in a crowded MTC bus, I have seen the bus driver,taking a break during sultry summers for a few minutes on the bridge, just to enjoy the cool gentle sea breeze and the placid waters flowing down the bridge,good enough to soothe the stressed out nerves of every passenger.


But the same river turned fierce this time gobbling up the entire stretch along its course, flooding many parts of of Singara Chennai and snatching scores of lives in the process.May be it was this way of taking sweet revenge on the whole lot of people, who had no qualms in turning the river in to stinking sewage canal.


Welcome to the Singara Chennai which is now both sinking and stinking.Perennially a water starved city,its citizens longingly looked at the skies for rains-the prayers were answered not with gentle showers but a maniac outpouring. Tuesday shattered the hopes and dreams of many people of Chennai,particularY the middle class and the lower strata of the society, caught in the swirling waters of Adyar and Cooum rivers.


Few decades back when middle class people shifted to suburbs due to its low priced houses and obscene high rentals prevailing in the city, many were not aware that these suburbs lacked the basic infrastructure and the subsequent nightmares that were to follow. The result was that they had to face the wrath of nature.Many lost valuable things and had to leave their homes running away from the floods literally. Every year the rains bring untold miseries to the slums lined along the water lines but this year the middle class were hit hard due to poor infrastructure of the suburbs.


40 cams of rain in just one hour is just what Simgara Chennai couldn't handle and overnight it turned to Sink-ara Chennai.With name sake storm water drains,surging waters found the easiest way by entering houses upto 2nd floor.


Owing due to its flat terrain even a slight drizzle caused water logging in Chennai but a deluge like this for which nobody was prepared, saw people clinging to their dear lives and leaving their homes at many places which had severe water logging. Illegal sewer connections connected to the storm water drains gave off and what people had to endure was stinking stagnant waters.


We can never take Nature for granted and the way we plunder nature, cutting trees, mining sand in river beds,encroachments of lakes, ponds and river beds,non maintenance of storm water drains,illegal sewer connections, politicians' indifference and people's ignorance have combined together presenting a devastating picture.Its is high time we analyse the causes for this kind of deluge and take remedial measures so that we are not caught on the wrong foot next time!

MIL asks to "borrow" jewels given by her

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This is not a serious issue, but has been irritating me in a while..MIL, like almost all ladies, is really fond of jewels, clothes etc..During wedding and first year festivals etc, there is a tradition where in laws will gift few silver items and jewellery to bride..

MIL has so many jewellery sets , she grudgingly gifted those as its tradition and relatives will want to see etc..I kept with me in locker..about 6 months after marriage, there was some wedding, so she asked to wear 1 of those sets as it was matching with her saree etc..so I gave it to her..Since it was silver with plating of gold colour and studded with some precious stones and not as expensive as gold jewellery I din't think much about it and gave her to wear,..it was one given by her for Diwali festival..After that she returned it , then again she took for some other occasion but kept it with her and conveniently forgot to return it..She also gave that set to her cousin to wear for one more wedding...She dint even ask me before sharing it with others and dint bother to return..She took it with her and kept in native place in locker..She has worn it twice after that for temple visits in native place, which I saw in photos..Even silver items gifted to me are with her in native place and not with me..

Soon after that wedding there was a big fight due to some other issues and for a long time there was lot of bitterness between us so I also dint ask her about that set ..I also dint want to ask..

Just some days back MIL casually mentioned about one more jewellery set which is gold chain with pendant and matching earrings. that was given by MIL and FIL for marriage as "Shagun" kind of thing..she was subtly saying she may want to wear that set for some wedding coming up next month..I ignore her and pretended I din't hear..because few people were there at home besides her.

I'm a little irritated..I know she'll again ask me after some days, then take and keep it with her, and this way take all other jewellery sets that were gifted by in-laws and which I have with me..If I dont give it or ask it back after she uses , she may give big lecture or even yell about how youngsters these days do not want to share and are so materialistic etc..

She has a very big collection herself and I do not know why she asks me for these only..the only reason is she hated gifting these jewels and subtly wants to take these back and keep them for herself.

After hearing few "snippets from the past" about my MIL, I got many examples of her possessiveness towards jewels.

I want to give a fitting answer for this so she wont bother me again with this issue..
Kindly suggest some direct and diplomatic approaches for the same...

FYI, I do not want to ask for or borrow or wear any of her stuff, neither do i want to keep any common jewel box or locker for both of us..that would just be asking for additional trouble..

IUI Pregnancy

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Being Treated at Mamatha Hosp, Secunderabad for the last 6-7 months.

Thyroid+PCOS and High AMH my problems...

I was performed IUI in September which failed..

In October, I was asked for a test and no treatment that month and no luck as well normally...

We have IUI again on Nov 30th.. It was a single IUI..

Doc asked me to check on December 16th


Advice for moving to Edison/ nearby areas

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Hi, My husband has got a job in NYC (near Penn Station) and we are looking for good residential options in North/Central Jersey. He also needs to do bit of travelling to Boston, Wayne etc. We are thinking of moving to Edison or any other city on NJ transit line to keep two job markets open for both of us (NY and NJ). Main requirements are: Good school system (for our 7 year old child), Safe neighborhood, Available parking at train station in case it is not at a walking distance and also reasonable rent. I know that North Edison is a good area due to JP Stevens High school but not sure if that is important right now as my daughter is only in grade 2. How are the schools in Iselin/Woodbridge area? Can anyone please let me know of a good elementary school in this area so that i can look for apartments near that.

Great news for karaoke lovers

I feel so weak and tired

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Hi all,

Happy to inform you all that am pregnant..MIL returned back from native and was happy for us. She is taking good care of me.She brought some prasad from some swamiji and gave to both of us saying baby will be good..you both will have a good time etc but my life is in danger and I need to do some pujas..Since I feel tired throughout the day,i dont have much interest in anything and mood swings are also high..

Once H heard MIL telling me about how his dad died when he was in the womb and some swamiji has predicted it during her 4 th month itself but her DH did not let her know..she came to know it later on through her relatives.. as soon as I conceived, H met with a minor accident and we revealed it to her only now. Suddenly she started telling baby has some dosham and you need to eat this prasad religiously (we both did not complete the cycle)

I dont know what happened but there was a big fight between H and MIL in my absence on this issue..H is very protective of the baby...After that she was all silent doing her chores..When she denied food, H started begging her to eat..she was so adamant and was like since 2 years you are giving me enough torture..only hen your baby comes you will feel the pain etc ..Had your dad been there will you talk to me that way etc etc..

Though H is as normal as ever she is limited..I talk whenever necessary and I feel suffocated being in such environment... I am afraid for unknown reasons

Sometimes I feel H is my pillar of support and at times like above, All my hatred towards situations are getting diverted towards H and I sometimes hate being married to him..He has done enough for me and all my day to day problems from doing house work to picking plates this man has made all the required amends..I stay v far from my parents and miss them like hell... Is it some harmonal changes?? Am not doing anything worthy and feel v guilty about it..

Top of it I dont have any friends here and left all alone..So thought of talking to ILites THank you

I want to invest in varied bank funds. Will I get a dedicated representative to help

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Yes, most of the good banks in Indonesia have a dedicated financial planner who can provide all the information about financial planning to individuals. Their main job is to guide people about the various investment options the bank has as per their budget.

Why is Saree not a popular dress in Pakistan?

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Pakistani women generally wear Salwar Kamiz, but not saree. Why?

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Teens and Birth Control Pills

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I know this is a very common thing in the US to give birth control pills for teens.

I just wanted to get ready myself and wanted to understand how many of you support this if not how do you handle your kids.People whoever pass this phase, please give me direction.

There is no way I can tell, I can control my teen.(my daughter yet but she will soon)


what is weakly positive

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hi

i am a 27 year married .now i have missed my periods and its the 33rd day now(starting from the first day of last periods).when i checked through IUd...it says weakly positive....what does that mean?
and when shall i visit my gynaec?.....is it too early if i visit now?my mom and mil are asking me to wait till 45 days.....
i am tensed....please guide

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personalized Tshirt printing online in Tamilnadu

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Hi
Does anyone know where to print personalized tshirt online in Tamilnadu. I wanna print a photo on a tshirt for my niece's birthday. I searched online but coudnt find one. can you help me .

thanks in advance!!!!
Priya Easwar

Indian Community Apartments in Cary or Morrisville

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Hi all.. its me bindhu currently located in New Jersey.. i have a plan to relocate to North Carolina by next month..It could be more helpful if u all can suggest any Indian Community Apartments in cary or morrisville city. Stay in touch. Thank You!!!!

Some 'Post Reply' 'Post New Thread' not working - Chrome

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When browsing a thread, the 'Post Reply' and 'Post New Thread' buttons at top of thread not working. The same buttons at the bottom of thread work fine.

When browsing a forum (not thread), both the 'Post New Thread' buttons work fine.

All the above is in Chrome browser only.

No button misbehaving in IE.

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