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Gifts for Teachers in U.S. Schools

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Deciding what to gift the teachers in your child's school - is it a no-brainer or lots of head scratching as you try to decipher the teacher's personality and what he/she might like?

Do you evaluate how much you and child love/hate the teacher when deciding the amount? :-)

Do you give a gift only in December, or also at school-year end?

How do you go about buying gifts for teachers? Could be elementary school, middle school, preschool, or even instructors such as karate, swim, piano and other desi staples in Umrica. Share your ideas, experiences, questions.

Intent is to discuss 'gift giving to teachers' as an art, skill, science, not just compiling gift item ideas.


Fraud in New Zealand

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I have overheard my colleagues talking about a big fraud in NZ by an Indian. Couldn't gather much info but all I know was that the conman was into some kind of event management and then he fled away from NZ. He is probably underground now.

Any New Zealand residents here? Do you know anything about this guy? Why it interests me is because I know an old couple who were duped by some conman in NZ. But, they are so reluctant to share his details, probably because of the attachment they had with him. You know, con men cheat after gaining trust. A few families who know this old couple are trying their best to give justice to them.

Any info about this guy would be of great help.

Help Chennai - Help Victims of the #ChennaiRains

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Please find a consolidated list and update as and when required

Volunteer Chennai - https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1euU...ewform?c=0&w=1
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets...lview?sle=true

Chennai Rains Resource center
#ChennaiRains Resource Center

Chennai has been declared a disaster zone. Alternative Army Helpline : 968 9445 3915

Weather forecaster with volunteering for food/shelter information
https://www.facebook.com/Dr.S.R.Ramanan/

Emergency numbers and a quick guide to being better prepared for the Tamil Nadu rains Emergency numbers and a quick guide to being better prepared for the Tamil Nadu rains | The News Minute


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Moderator @IL_Admin can this thread stay on top until flood situation in Chennai is resolved.


Help Tamilnadu and Chennai....

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Dear IL'ites

Since Snippets section is the most visited I am including a link here. If any of you/yours (friends/families) need help or if you can volunteer by even passing any information or updating this page until the flood situation in Chennai resolved it will be of great help.

http://www.indusladies.com/forums/ch...p-chennai.html

Thank you

Better half or best half??? Part-6

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After two more rounds, i could feel someone is following me. I turned back and didn’t find anyone so started again. After another round, this time i knew for sure that someone is behind me. I don’t want to turn back now because if i turn now, that person will go. So i continued again. I walked for 50 mts and suddenly turned to see that person.
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Yes, it was him... Ravi...

I asked him “why are you following me?”

He replied “Why did you leave when i was talking to you?”

I have no answer so kept silent.

He said again “anyways i need some favour, can you do it for me?”

I said “why should i do favour to you?”

He replied “ofcourse, i know i am nothing to you. But i am asking you favour nothing much”.

He pleaded me for next 2 mins.

I noticed my mom coming towards me. She came and asked me “Manu, who is this guy?”

Before i could answer, Ravi said “aunt, i am Manu’s friend. I saw her now so thought of talking to her”.

My mom asked me “is it? What is the name of this guy?”

I replied “yeah mom, he is my friend and his name is Ravi”.

When i said this, i saw him and he smiled at me. My mom again said “i will wait there, come soon”.

Said this she left and again Ravi started asking me the same thing. I got angry and said “what is the favour you need from me?”. To which he replied “can you tell to your friend about my love towards her?”.

I replied “how can i tell her about your love? It’s your love and you need to tell her. You can’t expect someone to tell about your love. If you don’t have guts to tell, then don’t love”.

I copied dialogues from movies and said in a filmy way.

Ravi said “i know i should tell her but i never interacted with her previously. Tried to make conversation with her long ago, but when i see her i couldn’t express my love. And that’s the reason i am pleading you”.

I said “ok, i will introduce you to her and it’s your thing how you gonna deal it”.

He kinda jumped and came to sense that he is in temple. He took my hand and shook it and left.

I don’t know what i said to him and took time to understand myself about my interaction with him. When i saw him, i lost myself and spoke something without any thinking. Now when i think about that, i spoke something foolish and how can i introduce him to Pooja. She is such a reserved girl who never spoke much to boys. Without my senses, i promised him and now thinking what to do.

I am not sure whether he loves Pooja or not but what he spoke in temple is echoing. Even though it’s filmy dialogue, i really liked it.

For next two days i didn’t see Ravi.

Tring.... Tring..... My landline started ringing. My mom received the call and she called me. She handed over the receiver to me and said “it’s Ravi”.

I took the receiver and thought myself “why is he calling me? And how did he get my number?”.

With all my questions i said over phone “yeah Ravi, tell me”.

He said “Hi Manu, i tried to talk to you for last two days but you didn’t go to Pooja’s house and that’s why i called you now”.

I asked him “how did you get my number?”

He said “leave those petty things and you promised me that you will introduce me to Pooja. When are you planning?”

I replied “you won’t answer me what i asked you but you are asking me to do some favour. How do you expect me to do?”

He replied “arey Manu, come on. So you want to know how i got your number. Ok i will tell you. One day to be precise before 1 week you were talking to one of your friend and said your mobile is running out of charge and you asked her to call you after 15 mins to your landline. That time you told your landline number to your friend and that’s the way i got your number”.

He said again “so now i told you how i got your number. Can you please do me the favour which i asked you?”

I replied “let me think of it and i will tell you after sometime”.

He said again “ok, when can i call you back?”

To which i replied “no need to call me again. I will meet you tomorrow at the same place and same time”. Said this i hung the call.

Next day was Friday.

I didn’t go to Pooja’s house and got a call from Ravi asking me about the plan.

I said “sorry, i couldn’t make it today. Come to juice parlour tomorrow at 5 pm”.

I called Pooja and said “why don’t we meet tomorrow in juice parlour at 5pm?”

Pooja replied “is it? I thought of coming to your house and both can go to Veera’s house”.

Oops, i don’t know what to tell. I thought something and said “We can go to Veera’s house after meeting in juice parlour. Is it fine?”

Pooja replied “yeah ok. Both will meet there”.

I wore simple skirt and didn’t feel like seeing myself in mirror.

I told my mom that i will be at home after 7 pm and left. I went to juice parlour which is almost halfway to my house and Pooja’s house. I saw Ravi sitting in the corner table.

He wore blue jeans with white shirt and it’s one of my favourite combinations. I lost myself seeing him. I knew i am wrong and i shouldn’t think about Ravi but i couldn’t control myself thinking about him. May be time will heal.

I went directly to that table and sat. I saw my watch and it crossed 5pm. We both are waiting for Pooja. I could see anxiety and happiness in his face. Even i felt happy when i saw him with happy face.

Pooja came in black and white salwar. She looked beautiful in that dress and Ravi lost himself seeing Pooja. She waved her hand and came near to our table and sat.

I said “Pooja, this is my friend Ravi. I just saw him here and was talking”.

Pooja and Ravi shook their hands and when i saw that moment, i pacified myself that Ravi is not mine.

We three started chatting and restaurant boy came to our table with menu card and waited so that we can order something.

I ordered my all time favourite chikku milk shake and saw their faces.

Pooja and Ravi ordered mango milkshake at sametime. I felt both had good connection. After that again we started chatting and our order came.

I took straw and kept in glass to drink. Both Pooja and Ravi didn’t take straw and started to drink directly. I felt both are doing same thing. They both hi-fied and continued their drink.

I don’t want to be there for more time and told Pooja that we can leave. They both exchanged their numbers and i felt surprised because Pooja being a reserved girl started chatting with Ravi and took his number also. I felt its unusual but i didn’t think about that.

Ravi asked me “Manu, can i get your number too?”

Pooja said “What? Don’t you know her number?”. Pooja turned towards me and said “You said he is your friend and he doesn’t have your number”.

To which i replied “yeah, he is my friend only. He have my landline number and i got this mobile recently only. I didn’t share my number and that’s why he is asking my number”.

I told my number and we both left to Veera’s house and spent sometime there.

I reached home at 7.30pm. I sat on sofa and started changing tv channels. I had my dinner at usual time and went to my room after 9pm. I thought of messaging Pooja so took mobile and sent her a message in whatsapp. To my surprise she replied in next few seconds because she never replied this early. I need to wait for atleast 30 mins to get reply from her and today she replied in next few seconds after i messaged her.

I said “what a surprise Pooja? You replied so soon. Are you chatting with someone else?”

To which she replied “yeah, got a message from Ravi. I replied him and meanwhile i got your message so replied you”

I thought myself ‘they started chatting also’.

I asked Pooja directly “generally you are not interested to talk to boys and you started talking to Ravi on first meet itself. What made you to talk?”

Pooja replied “ i don’t know Manu. When i spoke to him for first time, i felt he is close to me. Even i am surprised”.

We chatted for next few mins. I was expecting a ‘thank you’ message from him but i didn’t receive any message. I fall asleep and suddenly my mobile flashed and heard notification sound.

I took my mobile and saw its already 12.30 and i was thinking who messaged me at this time. I opened whatsapp and saw ‘hi’ message from some number. I thought it could be Ravi and i slept again.

To be continued.....

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brother abused me emotinaly

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Me and dh are planing r2i but still not working out. My in-laws are not supportive emotionally or financially and we don't even own a house in India. My Dad had some property in my name before marriage that he wants to sell and give me a house.
Now, my brother couldn't tolerate it and said he is spending lots of money on me and in in hindu culture iam not supposed to have any right on anythg. i was shocked and embarrased. I didn't demanded anythg from them. I faced a lot of problems after marriage but didn't asked a penny from them. He married intercaste and now advising me on my duties as a daughter after marriage . I wonder after being so educated why is our society so narrow minded or its his selfishness that makes them so.

My dad never took a single penny from him for himself or me and he himself was still dependent on my dad till now.
just a vent!

Indians in Stoneleigh at deerfield lets introduce ourselves!!!!

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Hi Ladies at Stoneleigh at deerfield,

Iam new to the IndusLadies community!! I hope we will have a wonderful time here interacting with other desi ladies in our area.

Please click "Post Reply" button below to introduce yourself. Some of the things that you might include in your introductions are:
  • Information about your family - parents, husband, children etc.
  • Where are you from and where do you currently live
  • Your education, job etc.
  • Your hobbies and interests
  • Your likes and dislikes





Indian property law

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Recently my dad passed away suddenly without leaving any will. I moved away from India long time ago and signed off papers at the registration office as I have no claim on any of my family inheritance that belongs to both of my parents.

Now, my sisters and brother would like to divide the properties among themselves. Do I have to be present at the registration office to sign 'no objection' on the properties? I am confused about Indian property law.

Does anyone have any experience with Indian inheritance law?


Please help

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hi i am currently living in usa with my husband and sister in law.we got married 6 months ago only.since his sister arrived in usa which is one and half years ago my husband has been taking care for her everything including college fees,personal expenses,housing,food everything.That is the reason he has big amount of balance in his credit cards.Her college costs about 5-6k per semester.my husband is a very nice guy so he gave her his credit card to make expenses.so its easier for her to go spend money on any unnecessary things.it breaks my heart thinking abt when me and my husband will be able to get out of that credit card debt and finally start saving for our future.i wont have any complaints abt it only if she was good in school.she struggles to get even 2.0 gpa.she spends most of the time just on her phone talking with her boyfriend.my biggest concern is not abt how much money we are spending on her i am more sad by her attitude in the house.when she knows her brother is doing everything for her i hope she acts little kinder in the family.she is very messy person,doesnt do anything in the house,recently she has even stopped cleaning her own plates after eating.she just leaves it there in the sink.if i am unable to make food at home when im busy being a grad student she just goes out and eat using the credit card instead of making food.she doesnt talk much to anyone and just sits in the corner with her phone all the time so i am completely lost on how to deal with her.this is really bothering me and relationship between me and my husband is going bad.i fight with my husband saying its his fault that he has made life so easy for her sister that she doesnt take responsibility of anything and lives care free. my husband has told his sister many times to do things around the house but she never does.she just keeps quiet.even my husband cannot communicate with her nicely as she doesnt talk much.we do listen to her when she is talking with her boyfriend and she talks with her bf very nicely.being a woman living abroad for so many years it really bothers me to watch someone who is completely dependent on others and are not even thankful.

Raynaulds syndrome

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Any alternative treatments available for this?

Dyeing the Hair - Vanity or a Need of the Times?

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As a child, I recall any aunty or uncle in the neighborhood or family circle who started to dye hair was always in for some leg-pulling and good-natured teasing and even some snide comments.

Fast forward to now - we live in a different world, and perhaps white hair is starting earlier too.

What do you think about dyeing hair to mask the white? For personal, social, and work-related reasons.

And on a more practical note - any hair dye brand recommendations? Is it a DIY venture or better to get done at a salon?

5 weeks Pregnant - no sac seen

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Hi friends,

i am 5 week pregnant. Today went for my first appointment. But no sac seen in vaginal ultrasound. Yesterday onwards I am having brown spotting. Yesterday onwards 3 times I saw when I wiped.in hospital they asked me check my Hcg count today and Friday.
I am very worried friends... Is this normal?

Bangalore ILites - You may help #ChennaiRains victims & other affected areas

Toddler self soothing by putting his hand down my shirt... still! Help!

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So I nursed my son for a year, and starting a few months after I weaned him, he began to sooth himself when he was tired, upset, etc...by putting his hand down my shirt. It never was a big deal at all, but almost a year later, it is getting sort of old. I feel bad for even thinking this, but it is getting to a point that it has become an obsession of his.�
He wakes up about 5:30 am and I bring him to bed with me, and we cuddle, with his hands in my shirt, I am stuck on what to do. When I tell him it hurts mommy he will only listen if he isn't tired, but if he is tired, he gets so mad at me. Forget handing him anything else that I could substitute, a soft blanket, a doll. If I'm wearing a turtle neck he will just look at me, like, "hey! mom, what do you think you are doing?!?!" and pull my shirt out and somehow wiggle his hand down there...
i am really geeting stressed out with his habit...

can anyone help..

Inlaws are coming again!!

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Hello Folks,

Many of you know me here..Logging into IL after long time,as IL is blocked at my work:-)...

Things are the same at home...DH mommy's boy and same MIL/SIL tantrums..and I am ignoring them and moving on..DH is also on their side...He constantly fights with me,saying that I dont care about anyone(since i am ignoring them tantrums and just maintains a formal calls)...

SIL is pregnant,so the calls between her and DH have increased(more than her calls to her DH)...Her DH stays in a another city and she is not working,but does not want to go there,as she thinks that place is not good for her parents(my inlaws)..So..she stays alone in the apartment..and cribs to my MIL saying that she is all alone..But no one tells her to goto her DH place....I have a FT job ,with s young kids and obviously I wont be able to attend her needs always..and even If i go extra mile and invite her to stay with us,that creates more problems for us..as already so many issues between DH and me,due to inlaws..So..I kept quiet and DH is upset on that..I told him to visit her if needed,thats it..no extra word..

Now My inlaws are coming in 2 weeks for her delivery..My heart beat races like anything when I think of that..Good that she is getting help...but the kind of issues they created when they came(4 times they came earlier),my DH still fights with me about them..I am scared on what new issues will come this time and what kind of torture I have to go through this time...I try my best to not to think much,but kind of scared...

I know I cant avoid them coming here..but...i am kind of worried..and also,somehow this time Inlaws trying to show some nice affection..I know thats not real..its just that they are saying what sarees you need etc...Earlier they used to get me cheap sarees etc(cheap stuff) while getting nice and expensive stuff for SIL..I just used to ignore and feel bad..but this time..they are trying to show to DH as if they are getting nice stuff to me(may be they are getting good stuff for whatever reasons,but it makes me feel bad that they are playing a game or trap)...and dont even feel like looking at them or talking to them..but i cant avoid them...Any tips to get away from these feelings...

Thanks.


Ugly

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Is there anyone in this world who doesn’t hate when called “ugly”? All of us spend millions of dollars prettying ourselves no matter how old we become. In fact, beauty products market is so big, there is no mall in the world which does not automatically provide a lot of shelf space for the beauty products. Besides they also allocate resources to sell those products to unsuspecting consumers who may be just visiting a mall to do window shopping. Human mind for some strange reason fail to see the person inside the skin. Even in job interviews, those who present themselves with good outfits and proper makeup succeed in securing a job. A pageant contest gets more sponsorship from big corporations than academic or sport contest.

If this is the situation with human beings, what would be the condition of the vegetables that are ugly? Every year 40% of the food grown in the US ends up in the garbage and majority of them are happening at the consumer level. But some of that waste is happening also between the farm and the grocery store. A perfectly nutritious vegetable could end up as waste simply because it grew a little imperfectly. In the beginning of 2015, a social media campaign was started by one individual by launching @UglyFruitandVeg to make the Americans to fall in love with ugly fruits and vegetables.

This campaign is primarily to add whimsical pictures of misshapen produce accompanied by humorous captions and hashtags and it took off so well in six months. The next step is to convince major grocery retail chains such as Walmart and Whole Foods to sell ugly fruits and vegetables. The Campaigner of this program has worked as a solid waste specialist for the Castro Valley Sanitary District in California, working on reducing waste throughout the small community. Prior to that he was working for 3 years as an environmental technician for the city of Dublin, a suburban town in California’s East Bay. During this period he learned a lot about zero waste, a philosophy that encourages the reuse of all discarded products so that none of them end up going to landfills as dumps. While studying about zero waste, he kept tripping over something he found especially difficult to stomach such as food waste.

The Americans have wasted 35 million tons of food in the year 2012. At the same time, the number of food insecure Americans also increased to one in six for the year 2014. But it is not just food insecure Americans who are suffering but also the environment. After taking into account recycling and composting, food was the most wasted material in the US, surpassing paper, plastics and yard trimmings. Approximately 20% of all U.S. trash is from food waste. According to U.N. Food and Agriculture Organization, global emissions from food waste were estimated at 3.3 gigatons of CO2 equivalent. To provide a comparison, it is more than twice the emissions from all U.S. transportation.

In October 2014, in partnership with Natural Resources Defense Council, a Zero Food Waste Forum, a gathering of food waste activists that culminated in feeding 5,000 people from food that would have otherwise ended up in landfills in the middle of Oakland. In 2014, the third largest supermarket chain in France launched a campaign sought to glorify ugly fruits and vegetables, those that would otherwise be thrown away for not meeting industry aesthetic standards by selling them at a reduced cost to customers.

America’s supermarkets are brimming with fresh produce that all looks exactly the same – perfect round, red tomatoes, stick-straight carrots and cucumbers, and plump little diamond strawberries. But that is not necessarily the way the produce always turns out. For a number of natural reasons – from weather changes to gene mutations (this is a separate subject to be covered by another snippet) - produce can grow to look a little wonky. Slight cosmetic differences – irregular shape, abnormal color or healed scars – don’t affect the safety of a product. Unfortunately, these cosmetic irregularities are often the focus on U.S. grading standards. As educated consumers let us not waste the ugly fruits and vegetables and adopt them into our households going forward. More and more consumers practice this, these vegetables which are no less in nutrition to their neighbors who have a perfect shape, will not end up in landfills. Please see the image below to understand how loving the ugly fruits and vegetables are.

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Is it a good idea to buy food processor?

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Hi all!

I am a bit of dilemma. I want help in chopping grating and juicing too. I am not able to decide whether to buy food processor or juicer?

Does food processor do a good job of juicing hard veggies like carrot? And also one odd question, does orange juice gets bitter if made in juicer?

App review: iSing for Android is a great app for Karaoke lovers by EconomicTimes

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Are you a fan of Karaoke but don't want to spend on a dedicated Karaoke machine? The free iSing app is capable of converting your Android smartphone into one. While the app itself is not entirely new, they have now added support for Hindi songs which makes it great for users in India. You can choose to sign-up for a free account with Facebook, Twitter or Instagram.....

Read more at:
App review: iSing for Android is a great app for Karaoke lovers - The Economic Times

Review about AMLED school in Dubai and (KGS)

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Hi Ladies,

My boy is 4 years and i got admission in Kindergarten Starters and AMLED School in Dubai. I am confused where to put him since AMLED is new as per my research and KGS is older school.

Though AMLED fees is double that of KGS , I am also interested in the quality of education , since thats all we can pass on to kids :-).

Anyone can shed light on which school is better for KG1 - AMLED or KGS ?

Mrs. Mathew

Flood

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This is very first time im writing something. Please forgive/correct me when ever u feel so…

Suman, a beautiful, elegant lady in her mid 30s was sitting near window and enjoying her evening tea and climate. Climate outside was cloudy and dark and she remembered the day they got transferred to Chennai. She was not at all ready to shift as she was bit uncomfortable with climate, culture, language etc..there. she being North Indian has her own excuses for her dislike. But Mohan (her husband) got good opportunity and promotion so they had to move without any option. Suman gradually started loving city because of all the facilities and loving and caring neighbours and the greenery everywhere. She also liked the place because she got a very good friend Priya as her neighbour. Priya helped her lot to get settle and comfortable. Priya comes daily to their house and sometimes they go for shopping and movie and malls together. Since Mohan was busy in his office and Khushi with school she spent her spare time with Priya enjoying and exploring the new place. She dint realised how a year passed since they shifted there.
She was in her own thought and was back to reality when her 6 years old daughter Khushi came running from outside after she got scared of thunders. Suman made some snakes and served her with milk. She was taking her studies and suddenly it started raining and pouring like rats and cats. She started wondering about Mohan as it was his time to return from office. She was aware of Chennai rain and made all emergency arrangement like checked invertor, candle and matchstick and all kept handy. She also checked her cell phone battery before electricity gets off.
She thought to call Mohan and check the rain there (his office was almost 25 kms from their home) “hello Mohan”
“hi, Suman, so it started raining there?”
“How do u know that, is it raining there too?”
“no yaar, I know u very well, it must have started raining that is why u called to take updates, right?” Mohan said in teasing tone.
“Please Mohan, I know u always tease me and make fun. But it is nothing like that. Ya It started raining here” Suman replied trying to hide her fear.
“ Don’t worry I will reach on time and safely. It is just cloudy here and its Chennai rain yaar. We need to get use to it, cahlo I have to wind up my work and leave early. Keep my snacks ready I will reach on time..love you”
“Ok I m also busy and don’t have much time..love you too” Suman replied with shyness…as she dint wanted Khushi to hear that...

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