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Giving

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Knowledge

The quality of true love is to give and not to receive. How many are to be found today in the world who love to give? When we find them, we acknowledge and appreciate without applying their habit of giving in our lives. Even a father hesitates to part with his property in order to give it to his children. Only God can be the infinite giver. Hence love is a divine quality. Although inherently love is present in every cell of the human being it does not manifest itself because of the pollution of the heart. A human being without love in the heart is as good as dead. I recently read a post in the Facebook which roared, “The purpose why we are gifted with wealth is not to merely increase our standard of living but to substantially increase our standard of giving”.

To seek only my own future is selfishness. To be concerned about my own bliss is also selfishness. Only the human being, who gives up self-interest and regards the happiness of others as his or her own and devotes himself or herself to their well-being, is a truly selfless person. The Lord will love only those who love others. If I seek to win the Lord’s love, I must love others. I cannot win the love of others if I do not love them. Without worrying about what has happened in the past and without concern for the future, I have to strive to make the best use of the present by cultivating love and doing service.

Example for application of knowledge

On one occasion, Emperor Parik****h fell at the feet of sage Suka and asked for instruction on a point that was causing him dire doubt. “Master! One riddle has been worrying me for a long time. I know that you can solve it for me and that no one else can. I have listened to the narratives of the lives of my forefathers, from the earliest, the great Manu, down to those of my grandfathers and father. I have studied these stories with care. I observe that in the history of every one of these, there is mention of sages (rishis) attached to the monarch, some learned scholar-saints who are members of the court, attending court sessions and sharing the business of government! These scholars have renounced all attachments and desires and have realized that the world is a shadow and a snare, that the One is the only Reality. What is the real meaning of this amazing association of scholars with kings and rulers playing subordinate roles and being counseled? I know that the revered elders won’t engage in any activity without sufficient and proper reasons. Their behavior is ever pure and unsullied. But this makes my doubt unsolvable. Please enlighten me.”

Suka laughed. He replied, “You asked a fine question, no doubt. Listen! The great sages and holy scholars are always eager to share with their fellow people the truth they have grasped, the sanctifying experience they have won, the elevating deeds they have been privileged to perform, and the divine grace they have been chosen to receive. They seek nearness to those who are in charge of administration and those who are adepts in ruling over peoples, with the intention to use them as instruments for establishing and ensuring peace and prosperity on earth. They implant high ideals in their minds, and holy ways of fulfilling them. They prompt the performance of righteous actions, in accordance with just laws. “The monarchs invite and welcome the sages, seek out the scholars, and plead with them to be in their courts, so that they can learn from them the art of government and act according to their counsel. The monarch was the master and guardian of the people; so, the sages spent their days with him for the estimable purpose of realizing, through him, the yearning of their hearts: May all the beings in the world be happy (lokaassamasthaah sukhino bhavanthu). The sages were eager to see happiness and peace spread over the world. Therefore, they tried to equip the kings with all the virtues, fill them with all the moral codes of discipline, arm them with all branches of learning, so that they may rule efficiently, wisely, and with beneficial consequences to themselves and their subjects.”


“To this venerable group belonged Vasishta, Viswamitra, Garga, Agastya, and the other sages (rishis). Monarchs of renunciation, they had no wants, sought nothing from anyone, and were ever content. They appeared in the audience halls of the emperors not for polemics and the pomp of punditry, or to collect the costly gifts offered to such disputants and guests, or to decorate themselves with the burdensome title those patrons confer on people they preferred. They craved rather the bliss of the vision of the Lord (darshan) and for a chance to uphold dharma in human affairs; they had no other objective”.

Love begets love. Love is giving and forgiving and selfishness is getting and forgetting. Let the Lord shower me with the mindset to have a hand that turns red by giving constantly rather than a face that turns red to see my own selfishness. Let me learn the knack of seeing myself in others which I believe will eventually end my misery. Let me stop worrying about painting a good picture about me and start thinking how I can fill my heart with love for others.



Eating during nausea and vomiting

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Eating during nausea and vomiting.

This phase can be very difficult for pregnant woman. First thing that they need to know is they don’t need to handle the pressure of eating healthy and nutritious food for the baby right now.

Eating healthy is crucial, filling the stomach with bare minimum food and hydrating themselves keeping their energy levels up to is what they need to focus on.

Most important don’t in this phase is not to take any medications without consulting their obstetrician. Identify nausea and vomiting triggers - it could be anything edible or any other source. Try and stay away.
It doesn’t matter even if it is a food source that is healthy. What is crucial is you don’t get dehydrated, tired and averse to food and starve.

Eat in very small quantities. Meager quantities whatever suits you in any form what you can sustain in multiple intervals which you can sustain and don’t throw up. Rest amply and relax. That will help.

Indulging in an indoor hobby for a small amount of time will help keep the mind diverted and relax.

Please take the medicines prescribed to you by your obstetrician if any, for vomiting. Excessive vomiting leading to fatigue and dehydration which is not a good thing. Visualize your baby and know you are in this together and you will make it through this phase one day at a time.


Take care… Happy Pregnancy….

Love

Rakhi

QA training in India

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I enquired about QA training in India. They are charging Rs.15,000 for manual testing(Iam from non-IT background) Is it worth taking the course?

Free ultrsound scaning for pregnant ladies

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Smart Skills Sewing School - Virugambakam & Vadapalani

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Hi friends,

I wish to learn tailoring. In searching of best tailoring school in and around Virugambakam.

I need reivews about smart skills sewing school at virugambakkam and Vadaplani.
If u know about some other tailoring institutes in this area let me know.


Thanks and Regards,
Srinithi.

Pls help reagarding biometric test for visa in uae

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Hi ILs,
I need to do my biometric test for visa.I stay in karama.Is biometric test done in karama medical service center?

Conditional Marriages

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Recently while enjoying a humorous talk show on the TV, I was taken back when an eminent person belonging to the film fraternity whose talk till then was sprinkled with humor suddenly took a serious turn.The cause was some one from the audience asking his opinion about young girls of marriageable age, putting unreasonable conditions before marriage.I could feel the speaker's BP rising when he shouted at all those invisible young women,putting silly conditions at potential grooms, due to which many eligible young men were made to wait the long quueue for the D day. "When are you girls going to get married,in your 60s or 80's",he roared and thumped his fists in anger. Seriously it was a serious issue,no laughing matter.


The star of the talk show pulled down those potential women brides for taking such disastrous decisions (which I felt was taken in their own interests) while they were in the process of choosing a partner . He said it was those conditions which broke up alliances right at its nascent stage.He asked all the young men eager to tie the knot,to wake up from their lethargy and to put an end to such nonsense even to the extent of cancelling official engagements or marriages.For the viewers this show was all the more dramatic with a good deal of cheers and some emotional tears thrown in between.tsk!tsk!


I remember my 70 year old grand mother carrying my horoscope, walking to the potential grooms house in the hot burning sun, in her worn out Hawaii chap pals,hopping and changing three buses to reach their destination only to be told bluntly that the alliance was already fixed. Not even the basic courtesy of offering a cup of water or a few kind words. Many times I stood speechless at her pitiable plight but mad as she was in her search for a groom for me, she ignored such indignant treatments and moved on to her next target. Why nobody shouted during those times when even basic courtesy norms was thrown to winds, when parents of eligible girls were made to run from pillar to post,just to finalize an alliance.


Years have rolled on and there are no more girl looking boy rituals, like presenting the girl in traditional attire along with sweet,Kara,and coffee,asking her to do catwalks, prostrate before everyone including the boy, make her sing songs - in fact nothing a self respecting girl would have agreed to do. In fact she was treated more like a circus artist rather than a lifetime partner. All the tamasha at the cost of girls side including the train fares if the boy and his family resided in other part of India and all this in return with a simple postcard announcing the regret in finalizing the alliance. Dark complexion,lack of good looks, poise,charm,family background,poor financial status,these were simple excuses to turn away a girl. Her good education,her scholarly attitude, her impeccable character,- valuable things which enrich life in the long run were just brushed aside. If the alliance turned positive, there were fish market bargains like dowry,a pair of diamond studs, diamond ring for the groom, 50 or 100 sovereigns of gold,swanky car,apartment, bank deposits? Even a daytime robber would have looked more decent!


There are a number of young married woman professionals-doctors,engineers and their likes who are forced to chuck their jobs at the insistence of their husbands when it comes to taking care of their kids.There are many women who have to fight for their rights for helping out their siblings in their studies financially or help their ailing parents by taking over their medical expenses, issues which have caused serious rift in marital relationships.


So what if a girl puts conditions that she will continue to work even after marriage or will help her parents financially? There may be a handful of men species who respect their wife’s altruism and support her wholeheartedly, but many of them are ready to chop her wings in her pursuit of freedom to do what she wants.Just one look at our great film actors will show how deep their bias is against women getting back in to their profession post marriage .


The present generation of girls are well educated and have a mind of their own.Their independent financial status with an excellent job gives the extraordinary courage and confidence which the girls of the previous generation lacked. Now the tables are turned and it is the girl who is seen giving orders and conditions.So what is the big deal? Why so much of hue and cry.


The day when every woman is recognized for her education,talent, courage, confidence and self respect by her husband,in laws,and the society,that is the day when any marriage can survive. Marriage is an unwritten contract between two individuals where the individual private space should be respected and adhered. It is not the quantity of years spent together between the husband and wife but it is the quality of relationship -where a woman is respected and treated with concern, shown genuine warmth,compassion, where she has the right to choose her friends,pursue her hobbies and where she is not used as a door mat or a sleeping partner.Amen!!!




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The Beautiful Rainbow

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I am taking up the topic that is making headlines the past few days .. months... and offlate the hot topic and headlines in the newspapers and media.


its really sickening and irritating to see people talking nonsense about being a hindu or a muslim or a christian... one person is talking that christians are not being targetted by militants where as hindus are. Those who are beliving in Hinduism have started speaking as rubbish at their fellow citizen of other beliefs.It's as good as creating a situation that every muslim belives that who ever is not a muslim can not be trustworthy.

This great country India has been surviving a lot of cutural and political invasion yet have stood strong as one as people had mutual respect and belief.
The hindus cannot stop having mughal dum biriyani or moghalai specialities in hotels, and get fattened up to talk the anti moslem slogans. The muslims design beautiful dresses for many a people who are not their religion have not thought of the religious background of the person who gives them a business.
While a person chooses his or her belief there is no one to question or force them to change to another belief and there is nothing harm or bad in it. Targeting a group of people and converting them to some religion or caste or creed with the dress they wear and food they eat is absolutely ridiculous.
The moghal kings who have not supported or who had been against other religions have been rememebered for their religion based atrocities inspite of their great governance skills. Unfortunately in a country like india, any other religion other than hinduism is not the majortiy and its not their fault that they do not have a majority crowd. When certain relgion based groups are using that as s reason to create insecurity in the minds of people, the only way of the fellow hindu men should be to ensure their safety , security and integrity towards the nation..


Our ancestors had been more orthodox than us....be it whatever their religion is, they stuck to their practises... yet they had lived as one nation for lots of centuries. Our identity as a nation comes from coexistence of multiple languages and cultures and beliefs. India stays as a great wonder for other countries with its highly diversifies cultures co existing as one nation. we have got away from the clutches of english colonialism but got in to the clutches of our own beliefs and cultures by pushing ourselves in to the bonds of narrow minded thoughts.


The history sees a lot of fights and wards inbetween saivists and vaishnavists and both have been combined together as hinduism now. aghoris, the worshippers of bhairava called kalabhairavas and there are many other unnames groups that are in itself cotroversial in hinduism. the current set of people with the saffron flag continue to pick up references from epics uoanishads and slokas to make people belive that every other finding, discovery and practice originated from them! Its as foolish as the belief of the other religion stating that their god alone created the entire world and he doesnt believe in other religions...
With passage of time, saivism and vainavism were recognised as two parts of same religion where as it was considered different religions in the past.The same thing happen with all world religions with passage of time.. just by hating other beliefs and trying to minimize the crowd with the other kind of belief is mere foolishness.


All religions mention the same, that god is righteous and kind. When we all turn toward being righteous and uninterfering and compassionate we all would unite at one point and it the world would have a divine peace.. Lets think of our actions that can bring out a positive change in the world and make it a better place.

What makes the rainbow beautiful is that it has multiple colors. All the colors form a uniform shape and exist as a rainbow. There is no one who doesn't admire the rainbow. We are a beautiful rainbow and lets not spoil the beauty in it. Lets stop talking rubbish or let others talk rubbish.. after all we are all one kind.. mankind... and we all live in one planet.


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Kameshwari Goddess

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I've been interested in Lalita Tripura Sundari, and the manifestation known as Kameshwari. She is pretty rare, and not a lot is out there about her. What is her significance? What is the benefit of worshipping Kameshwari?

Plastic polythene bag flowers..step by step

Rows of trees with different colors!

My pencil sketch

Whether all mothers deserve rich tributes?

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வாசலிலேயே காத்திருந்தாள் என் சினேகிதி விஜயா. காரை விட்டு இறங்கியதுமே ஓடி வந்து கைகளைப் பற்றியவளின் உதடுகள் துடித்தன.




“ இப்போ எப்படி இருக்கு அம்மாவுக்கு?



“பரவாயில்லை. ஆனால் கவலையாகவே இருக்கு!”



உள்ளே நுழைந்து அவள் அம்மாவைப்பார்த்ததும் மனசு கனமானது. உடல் குறுகி, வலியின் வேதனையில் முனகல் தொடர என்னைப்பார்த்ததும் ஒரு கணம் யோசனை தெரிந்தது. உடனேயே ஞாபகம் வர மெலிசான குரலில் விசாரணை.



“ எப்படி இருக்கிறாய்? ரொம்ப நாள் ஆச்சு பார்த்து!..”



“ நான் நல்லா இருக்கேன். உங்க உடம்பு தேவலாமா?”



“ நல்லாவே இல்லை. எங்கே, இவள் டாக்டரிடம் என்னை அழைத்துப்போவதே இல்லை..”



குபுக்கென்று கண்ணீர் எட்டி பார்த்தது என் சினேகிதியின் விழிகளில். அதை முழுங்கிக்கொண்டு, வெதுவெதுப்பான கஞ்சியைக் கொண்டு வந்து அம்மாவுக்கு புகட்டினாள். வாயைத் துடைத்து விட்டு சாய்ந்தாற்போல உட்கார வைத்தாள். அவள் மறுபடியும் சமையலறை சென்று தண்ணீர் எடுத்து வருவதற்குள் என்னிடம் மகளைப்பற்றி சரசரவென்று மனதிலிருந்து குறைகள் வெளியே தெறித்து விழுந்தன. விஜயா வந்து அமர்ந்து ஒரு கணம் கூட ஆகியிருக்காது, உடற்கழிவுகள் அந்தப் பாயிலேயே வெளியேற, மறுபடியும் அம்மாவை துடைத்து விட்டு, ஆசுவாசப்படுத்தி சாய்ந்தாற்போல அமர வைத்து, கழிவுகளை நீக்கி, பாயையும் அந்த இடத்தையும் அலசி விட்டு நிமிர்வதற்குள் விஜயாவுக்கு உடம்பு இற்றுப்போயிருப்பது தெரிந்தது.

சும்மாவா! அவளுக்கும் 60 வயது முடிந்தது இரு மாதங்களுக்கு முன்பு! மகள்களுக்குத் திருமணம் முடித்தாயிற்று. மகனும் கணவரும் வீட்டில் இருக்கும்போது அம்மாவைத் தூக்க, மெல்ல கழிவறைக்கு கொண்டு செல்ல உதவுகிறார்கள்.


ஒரு தம்பியும் இருக்கிறான் பக்கத்துத் தெருவிலேயே. அவனுடைய மனைவியும் வேலைக்குச் செல்லுவதால் அம்மாவை தன் வீட்டில் வைத்துப் பார்த்துக் கொள்ள முடியாது என்பதை முன்னமேயே தெரிவித்து விட்டான். இதே மகன் தன் அம்மா உடம்பு நன்றாக இருக்கும்போது தன் அம்மாவை தன் செளகரியங்களுக்காக வீட்டில் வைத்துக் கொண்டவன் தான். இப்போது எந்தப்பயனும் இல்லாத அம்மாவை எதற்காக வீட்டில் வைத்துக் கொள்ள வேண்டும்? ஒரு வேலைக்காரி போல அந்த வீட்டில் வேலைகள் செய்திருந்தாலும் அம்மா தன் வாயைத் திறந்து எந்த குறையும் மகனைப்பற்றிச் சொன்னதில்லை. ஏனென்றால் அவன் மகன்! மகளைப்பற்றி மட்டும் மனதில் எத்தனை குறைகள்!!




அம்மா முனகலுடன் உறங்கியதும் விஜயா என்னருகில் வந்து அமர்ந்தாள்.
“ அம்மா சென்ற மாதம் கட்டிலிலிருந்து விழுந்து விட்டதாய் எழுதியிருந்தேனல்லவா, அப்போது டாக்டரிடம் அழைத்துச் சென்ற போது, அம்மாவின் எலும்புகள் எல்லாம் கிட்டத்தட்ட நொறுங்கி விட்டதாக டாக்டர் சொன்னார். வயசும் 80க்கு மேல்! எந்த மருந்தும் வைத்து தேய்க்கக் கூடாது என்கிறார். அம்மாவுக்கோ வலி தாளமுடியவில்லை. மருந்து தேய்க்க மாட்டாயா? என்று கேட்டுக் கொண்டே இருக்கிறார். அக்கம் பக்கத்திலிருந்து வருகிறவர்கள் போகிறவர்கள் எல்லோரிடமும் நான் கவனிப்பதில்லை, மருந்து தேய்த்து விடுவதில்லை என்று ஒரே புலம்பல்! நீயே பார்த்தாயல்லவா, நீ வந்து உட்கார்ந்த இந்த அரை மணி நேரத்தில் என்னென்னவெல்லாம் நான் செய்கிறேன் என்று! எனக்கும் உடம்பு வலிக்கிறது, இற்றுப்போகிறது, இருந்தாலும் இந்த நோயுடன் போராடும் ஒரு அம்மாவிற்கு என்ன குறையை நான் வைத்தேன்? நான் போதாதென்று என் கணவர், மகன் என்று அத்தனை பேரும் இவர்களைப் பார்த்துக்கொள்கிறோம். இது புரியவில்லையா அம்மாவுக்கு?”
விஜயாவின் கண்களிலிருந்து கண்ணீர் அருவியாய்ப் பொழிந்தது.
அவள் கரங்களை ஆதூரத்துடன் தடவிக் கொடுத்தேன்.




“ தம்பி இங்கு வருவதேயில்லையா?”



கசப்பான புன்னகை அவள் முகத்தில் படர்ந்தது.



“ வருகிறான் தினமும் இரண்டு வேளை! அவன் வந்து சாப்பாடு கொடுத்தால் இவர்கள் கொஞ்சம் கூடுதலாகவே சாப்பிடுகிறார்கள். அதனால் கட்டாயம் வரவேண்டும் இரண்டு வேளை என்று சொல்லியிருக்கிறேன். அவனும் எங்கே முழு பாரமும் தன் மேல் வந்து விடுமோ என்ற பயத்தில் தினமும் வந்து போகிறான்.. “



என் மனமும் ஆற்றாமையில் குமைந்தது. என்ன நியாயம் இது! இவள் சமைத்துத் தந்தாலும் அக்கறையுடன் இந்த அளவு விழுந்து விழுந்து செய்தாலும் கவனிப்பதில்லை என்று குறை! கவனிக்காமல் அலட்சியப்படுத்தி, கடமைக்காக வந்து எட்டிப்பார்த்து, தன் கையால் இதே உணவை மகன் கொடுக்கும்போது கொஞ்சம் அதிகமாகவே உள்ளே செல்கிறது! தாய்மையிலும் பாரபட்சம் இருக்கிறதா?



“ விடு விஜயா! வயது முதிரும்போது பெரியவர்கள் குழந்தையாக மாறி விடுகிறார்கள் என்று தான் உனக்குத் தெரியுமே! மனம் முதிராத குழந்தையாக இவர்களை நினைத்துக்கொள்”



“ குழந்தையென்றால் அடிக்க முடியும். திட்ட முடியும். இவர்களை என்ன செய்வது? நம் குழந்தை அடுத்த வீட்டில் போய் நம்மைக் குறை சொல்லாதே! அக்கம் பக்கத்தில் நான் கஷ்டப்படுவதைப் பார்த்துக் கொண்டு தானிருக்கிறார்கள். இருந்தாலும் ‘ பெற்ற அம்மாவே மகளைப்பற்றி இப்படிச் சொன்னால், ஒரு வேளை அது உண்மையாகவே கூட இருக்கலாம் என்று அவர்களுக்குத் தோன்றாதா? காலத்துக்கும் எனக்கு அது கெட்ட பெயர்தானே?”



“ அம்மா! பேசாமல் இருக்க மாட்டீர்களா?”



அதட்டியபடி உள்ளே நுழைந்தான் விஜயாவின் மகன் ப்ரகாஷ்.



“ வாங்க பெரியம்மா! பாருங்கள், அம்மா இப்படித்தான் எப்போதும் அழுது கொண்டே இருக்கிறார்கள். அவர்களுக்கு புத்திமதி சொல்லுங்கள். கீதையில் சொல்லியிருக்கிறதல்லவா, கடமையைச் செய், பலனை எதிர்பாராதே என்று. இதை எனக்குச் சொல்லிக் கொடுத்ததே அம்மா தான். எப்போதுமே தானாக வந்து மடியில் விழும் எந்த விஷயத்திற்கும் மதிப்பில்லை. அம்மாவின் அன்பும் அப்படித்தான். கிடைக்க முடியாத தூரத்தில் மாமாவின் அன்பு இருப்பதால் அதற்காகத் தான் பாட்டி ஏங்கித் தவிக்கிறார்கள். அவ்வளவு தான். எல்லோருக்குமே வயதானவர்கள் அருகேயிருந்து கவனிக்கும் கொடுப்பினை கிடைக்காது பெரியம்மா. எங்களுக்கு அது கிடைத்திருக்கிறது.....”



தந்தைக்கே உபதேசித்த மகனாய் எனக்கு அவன் தோன்றினான். 25 வயதில் முதிர்ச்சியடைந்த மகன், 85 வயதில் மனம் இன்னும் முதிராத தாய் - இரண்டு பேருக்கும் நடுவே கலங்கிய கண்களுடன் என் சினேகிதி! அவள் மனம் இந்த விளக்கத்தால் சமாதானமாகி விடுமா என்ன?



வாழ்க்கையில் சில கேள்விகளுக்கு உண்மையிலேயே பதில் தெரிவதில்லை!


( This is my personal experience also.One of my sisters ,deserted by her husband,had to necessarily stay with my parents and was looking after my mother suffering from paralytic stroke at our village home.She had to work from 5A. M. to 11 P. M. daily.Whenever any of the other daughters visited our parents for a day or two ,amma used to complain a lot about her.The visitors also gave generous advices to that sister .,which she had to take with a pinch of salt.)



Mothers can be like this too.

That makes me think whether all mothers deserve rich tributes that are normally showered on them.

Jayasala 42




Vruksha Vidhyashram vs Velammal Global

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Dear ILs,
My kid is in UKG now and I'm looking for schools to enrol him in 1st std in the coming year. We stay close to Redhills Chennai and the nearest ones are Vruksha Vidhyashram, madhavram and Velammal Global puzhal. Please pour in your reviews. Parents of students studying in these schools, please reply on this.

Awaiting ur feedback.

Shalini


Need help with stubborn wife

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Hello all,

I've been a silent lurker all this while looking for posts which match my situation. Couldn't find any. So I decided to post mine today and seek suggestions.

I'm married to this beautiful woman and we have a daughter of 7 years old. Both of us work here in US. We are a happy family and live each other to no end. But here is the problem that's been bugging me for sometime. Whenever we have a lengthy discussion on an issue and decide/agree something, she just doesn't stick to it. She carries on her own methods (read original issue) and act like the discussion really never happened. The issues range from her careless driving to change in job to sending our daughter to class. The list is endless. Initially I used to get annoyed for these individual things. Then I realized the trend. She just acts on her own will - she discusses things with me - we agree on a certain decision - she still follows the old method. I am throwing a fit of rage these days even for small issues because I see the trend and everything else comes to my mind. I'll explain a bit more on the issues.

Driving : Let's all agree driving is not really a natural skill for women as much for men. No stereotyping - just a fact even if there are exceptions. But women mitigate that with slow and careful driving for most parts. What I've in my hand is not in that group. She drives aggressive, too fast for the condition and really scares me. I mean I am really scared that she might end up in a jail killing someone here. Honestly she doesn't have enough driving skills - I need to reverse the car for her if it's in a tight spot; can't drive into garage; doesn't have an idea about cornering. All she knows is accelerating and braking. Whenever I try to fix her, her retort is her friends say she's a good driver. Yeah - that's because her friends don't drive and will not be really affected if she lands in a jail. So as usual we discussed this : I went from angry confrontation to begging her mercy that daughter and I need her in the life and don't want her to end up in an accident. She agreed she is driving fast and promised will slow down. Never did she.. Hit a car from behind. Luckily no injuries to both parties ; but continues to drive stupid.

The job change : Last year she got a promotion in the job and also her bosses changed. So she had to be at office from 8 till 5 everyday. Add 2 hours of commute. So effectively she's gone from 7 to 7. Comes back as a lifeless body. Cook (either one, though she insists she cooks) eat and sleep. Repeat. Add our daughter's karate class and peer pressure induced maths coaching class to the mix. I just don't live with her at all. I work close by. I come back from office early and wait for her. She comes back tired and there is no romance in sex life. I feel guilty even to ask her out most times. She never says no - but again I don't ask as much as I want to. So again, we discussed : explained her job is wreaking havoc in personal lives. She agreed to find a local job. This was six months back with follow ups 3 months and a month earlier. I was really fed up and asked her to show emails where she applied. She had none. She didn't apply for any job in the last 6 months. Do you see the trend?

Same with daughters maths class, not texting/talking to this male single colleague post office hours (desi and desperate; obviously she doesn't see it), joining a gym, the list goes on. Other than this one trend she's amazing. Showers love and trustworthy. She doesn't/ can't lie. How can I help this relationship. I am really worried that I will start hating her.

Quilling Jhumka

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Quilling Jhumka's well woooha this is something odd to hear.....soo I made a few of these "Quilling Jhumka's" and they look so alike real Jhumka's.....They look soo astonishing that whenvr u go to a party people have to turn around to see your Jhumka's.....they are fabulous I love them

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The Unknown Future

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I have been lucky to read two wonderful books this month and the thought that came to mind as I reached the last page was this quotation by someone unknown, “ Anyone who says they have only one life to live must not know how to read a book.’
Books which we love take us into another world and the characters in the them become real people for us. I am now reading ‘In memory yet green’ by Isaac Asimov. It is his autobiography. He is one of my favourite writers and I am living every moment of the book. A few years ago I had read his Foundation series. They had been an exciting journey into the far future. The author imagines a very changed world but human nature has not changed. I don’t think we would be humans if that changed. :-)
The far future is unknown to us but recent events of violence and bloodshed make us realize that even the very near future is unknown to us. The very next moment can be so different from what we imagine. Did those people attending the concert in Paris imagine that life would change so drastically? They were enjoying the music and then everything changed.
Natural calamities or man-made ones, they do take us by surprise. We like to believe that we are prepared. In our own lives, something happens and the course of our life changes. We are left thinking ‘we never dreamt that life would change so much.’
In my country many firmly believe ‘what is to happen will happen, we have to do our best and leave the rest to that higher power in which we believe.’ In a way this belief helps people to accept whatever comes their way. This acceptance makes it so much more easier to face the unknown future.

Writing about the unknown future reminded me of these lines written by Gerald Massey. I had read them long back in a Mills and Boon book by Essie Summers. Those were the days of Mills and Boons. :thumbsup
But Essie Summers is still one of my favourite authors.



‘Not by appointment do we meet


Delight or joy,
They heed not our expectancy.
But round some corner
Of the streets of Life,
They of a sudden greet us with a Smile.’

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Need help for L2 interview

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Hello friends,

I am new to this community and I have my L2 visa scheduled on 8th of Dec, 2015. I am attending alone as my husband is in US currently and its been 2 1/2 months since he left. I would like to know if the visa is approved, will the consular officer give any documents that states our visa has been approved? My husband says he was given back a stamped copy of his L1 blanket petition on approving. Since L2 visa doesn't have any petitions, i'm confused if they will give us anything?

Thank you.
Swarna

tutionclasses available in quasmia sharjah

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Hi I am taking tution classes for classes first to seventh grade.intrested students can contact me .

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